haruki zaemon

7 Ways to Meet the Need to Feel Seen, Heard, and Understood - Leadership Freak

  1. by Simon Harris
  2. May 26, 2023
  3. 1 min

For me at least, a timely reminder with helpful examples.


  • You feel motivated when you feel seen.
  • You tend to disengage when you feel unheard.
  • You’re anxious or angry when you feel misunderstood.
  • You engage when you feel you matter.


  • Practice vulnerability. Declare development goals.
  • Discuss progress. Let people know how you’re doing.
  • Provide clear expectations.
  • Recognize strengths publicly. Everyone on the team needs to know the top five strengths of everyone on the team.
  • Learn to listen. You can listen without committing to do everything people say.
  • Thank people for contributing.
  • Accept the human condition. Everyone has weaknesses, even you.
  • Practice empathy.
  • Affirm people’s energy.